How much of your family's mental load are you carrying?
Discover whether your family relies on shared systems — or one person's memory.
Modern family life asks one person to remember hundreds of things every week. This assessment helps you understand whether your family is sharing that responsibility — or whether too much of it quietly depends on you.
01Answer how things actually are, not how you'd like them to be.
02You'll get your score straight away — no email needed to see it.
03Then, if you want it, a full breakdown of where the load sits.
Which best describes your household?
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What this score means
Want the full breakdown by area, and the one thing worth changing first?
Why this happens
Where the load sits
The first thing to change this week
Speak the week out loud — say it, don't just carry it.
Make responsibilities visible, not just remembered.
Transfer ownership — not reminders.
Here's how Verlae helps
Imagine if...
Everyone could see this week without asking you.
Handover happened without you rehearsing it beforehand.
Someone else could run tomorrow without a briefing.
Your score isn't a measure of how capable you are. It's a measure of how much your family currently depends on one person's memory.
Ready to stop carrying everything in your head?
Verlae helps families organise calendars, school information, routines, tasks and responsibilities in one shared family operating system.
This score reflects patterns you recognise in your own week — it isn't a clinical or diagnostic measure.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the Verlae Mental Load Assessment?+
It's a free, 3-minute self-assessment that measures how much of your family's planning, remembering and coordination currently depends on one person's memory, across five areas: awareness, ownership, visibility, delegation and mental recovery.
How is my mental load score calculated?+
You answer 20 short statements about how things actually work in your household. Your responses are scored across five dimensions and combined into a single score out of 100, where a higher score means more of the mental load currently sits with one person.
Is the assessment a clinical or diagnostic test?+
No. It reflects patterns you recognise in your own week and is designed to help you see where family responsibility currently sits — it isn't a clinical or diagnostic measure.
Do I need to give my email to see my score?+
No. Your overall score is shown immediately after the last question. An email is only needed if you want the full breakdown by area, along with the one thing worth changing first.
What do I do after I get my results?+
Your full breakdown includes the area carrying the most load and a practical first step. Many families use Verlae's shared calendar, School Command Centre, Handover Mode and Meal Planner to move that load out of one person's head and into a system everyone can see.